All we can do is bless their small minds even though it can hurt at times.
I play sports and am not intimidated by any white guy or girl, so integration is not an issue.
Lets be real, is your personality welcoming and interesting? Ironically, my current american gf, my fiancee finds me more desirable that I am divorced, have the life experiences and I find her to be more desirable that she too has a similar past, albeit she is a bit younger.